Trying to be THE best vs. being the best YOU can be
Very important topic that Manwhore always drills into my head, but I haven't really grasped it enough to describe it until recently.
It is not about being THE best, it is about being the best YOU can be. This applies to everything! But it has massive application for game. My goal is to train myself, tackling my weaknesses and using my strengths to my advantage. I am shamelessly pushing myself, what other dudes are doing does not concern me. I don't let that dude bragging about his body count get to me. When I try to be the better than other people, I take the focus of myself and everything turns to shit. After all, I am hunting down ladies for the amazing experiences that I can have with them, not bragging rights. None of this means to an end bullshit matters. When we focus on being the best WE can be, amazing relationships with people are formed. I am chasing good feelings, and I want the girls to feel it too. I don't care if some other dude fucked her better, or if i'm not as interesting, the only thing I want girls to know about me is that i'm improving my game and everything in my life. I am dynamic.
No matter what stage you are at in game, women respect the hustle.
When I try to be the better than other people, I take the focus off myself.
Yeah man - that's huge. It's something I really experienced prepping for these interviews, so I totally connect.
When you hold yourself to an inssanely high standard, there's not even a point to focus on anyone else because you'll be pushing yourself to such a limit that you're either going to win or lose, and if you lose it doesn't even matter because you did everything possible.
It actually is HUGE for decreasing stress. The reason for this is because We tend to feel more stress over things that we sense are out of our control. So, if we focus on beating others, we will be more stressed out because that's not in our control, but when we focus on just putting in every ounce of effort, and holding ourselves to high standards, it's less stressful because the focus is solely on shit we can control
Plus you're looking at something else, and not exploring YOU. You have NO idea what you're capable of.. NO idea what sort of crazy shit you'll get into and develop. THAT is where the real gold is. If you're trying to look around at other people you're completely missing the fucking point of it all- putting all your focus on something that will never give you anything back but hindsight bullshit. Attempting to copy something or someone else is a shallow and faded mimicry of real inspiration.
So fuckin true. I often feel very receptive to other peoples thinking, but recently I've shifted my focus on to how I actually perceive reality and take action/doing stuff/saying stuff that puts me in a good mood, regardless of other peoples perception. You guys are touching on some really key aspects here
Dope. Thanks for sharing bro.
putting all your focus on something that will never give you anything back but hindsight bullshit. Attempting to copy something or someone else is a shallow and faded mimicry of real inspiration.
I really like this right here, it was exactly what I was struggling to put into words.
This focus on myself, which is esentially presence, is the only state that feels stable anymore. I think most people can look around and compare themselves to others in a healthy way, but when I personally do this it is just a never ending pit of insane judgements. I will either feel like I am not good enough, or I will feel so blessed and proud of myself that guilt starts to kick in.
When I focus on myself though, all I know is the direction that I need to take to improve myself. It is a path that is extremely focused and pure, it doesn't need anything from the "outside". Yeah, it is a little selfish, but truthfully being the best I can be does benefit other people around me.
My Jiu-Jitsu coach was talking about this the other day. You NEVER compare yourself to your opponent. All that needs to be done is 100% focus on YOUR training.
Yes you were always insanely conscious of other people's opinions of you during our training. Mostly mine. It was so fucking frustrating. Instead of actually listening to me you'd try to use your knowledge of "advanced" rsdn videos to jump ahead and attempt to finish my sentences or try to show that you understood what I was saying. Gay as fuck
I guess a problem with trying to be the best is you copy people more whereas working on yourself produces a more original version of what you originally thought was "the best", a proxy-relative idea in itself, I mean I thought this forum was giving some of the best advice I'd read out of all, but in a sense it's more to do with the fact it aligned with my way of thinking. BUT also that doesn't necessarily mean it isn't the best ;)