The Universe's been manifesting something the last couple days.. can't ignore
I've been hit up from different directions in multiple capacities to address "inner game". The beliefs and inner mentality and structure that governs our behavior and emotions.
The reason I haven't really put out any content in this area is because I used to SO MUCH. Used to write on it a ton, even gave a couple conference talks on it back in 2007/08.. then Tolle came along and shot us all into ZERO G gravity so I stopped it, just referred everyone to Tolle. But Rezznt made the point to me, and it was something I'd already considered, that Tolle is more of a meta-focus and since most guys don't give a fuck about anything not pertaining to getting laid, they just ignore the fuck out of it. So I need to bridge the gap and bring that shit into terms that horny young dudes can understand.
Anyway I'll start creating a lot more content in this area but I wanted to get your guys' thoughts on "inner game".
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Yeah I think talking about how learning to become present, unidentify with your mind will massively improve your social interactions and sex life
To me, and I told you more in the email I sent you, it's just about taking control of your mind and conditioning it to do what you want it to do. I think a lot of the mindsets, frames of reality, whatever you wanna call them, that certain RSD instructors teach are a lot more harmful than helpful. They might make you better at game, but they will make your life experience worse in ever other area.
But the issue I have with just telling guys to listen to Tolle is that it doesn't teach you any kind of actual control over how you're feeling/viewing the world, it's just like "listen to what this guy is saying". On top of that, most dudes are too "unconscious" to even understand what the fuck Tolle is even talking about. I definitely didn't understand more than bits and pieces until I started to feel it, and experience it myself, which took months to even begin noticing real change. So yeah, it's hard for some guy who's primarily concearned with getting laid to even comprehend Tolle and why it's helpful to him, let alone make what he's teaching a part of his reality.
Yeah, I'm definitely into this. Been having a lot of realizations myself thanks to you guys hammering it into my skull, time and time again, but this could really help me get the ball rolling even faster. I'm trying to get this shit locked, asap.
My biggest shift lately is figuring out that it is completely okay to live and handle shit exactly the way I want to do it.
My whole life I've always asked myself why I don't behave like "normal" people. I wondered why I had to take my school work so seriously while everyone slacks off, why I feel the need to keep myself healthy while everyone else is content eating crap and sitting on their ass, why I actually don't enjoy drinking every weekend, or why I take pride in doing quality work at my crappy job while all my co-workers fuck off all day.
I'm glad that I am living with standards that build success. Maybe I'm not normal and I am often busy improving myself but it is what it takes to become an accomplished person. Sometimes it sucks because I feel all this influence of my friends that want to pull me away from what I really want to be doing. I would be a bitch if I let other people guide my life.
Not trying to be douchey or superior I just feel like I am around a lot of low value people that try to drag me down. I've been hanging with dudes that have barely been passing high school....its pathetic.
My biggest shift lately is figuring out that it is completely okay to live and handle shit exactly the way I want to do it.My whole life I've always asked myself why I don't behave like "normal" people. I wondered why I had to take my school work so seriously while everyone slacks off, why I feel the need to keep myself healthy while everyone else is content eating crap and sitting on their ass, why I actually don't enjoy drinking every weekend, or why I take pride in doing quality work at my crappy job while all my co-workers fuck off all day.
I'm glad that I am living with standards that build success. Maybe I'm not normal and I am often busy improving myself but it is what it takes to become an accomplished person. Sometimes it sucks because I feel all this influence of my friends that want to pull me away from what I really want to be doing. I would be a bitch if I let other people guide my life.
Dude that is VERY good. Nice
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Not trying to be douchey or superior I just feel like I am around a lot of low value people that try to drag me down. I've been hanging with dudes that have barely been passing high school....its pathetic.
I wouldnt be judging peoples value based on their grades at school. Thats narrow minded.
But ya man. I got to that point where I outgrew my highschool friends and I needed to pull away from them so I can def relate to what youre feeling. Youre just going through it alot younger than I did which is cool. Definite sign of maturity,
Just stick to your guns man. Youre friends will slowly start pressuring you less and less and come to accept who you are. Just hold your frame. If you dont want to drink with them every weekend they will eventually get the picture and realise that they dont have control over you.
I would try to avoid looking down on people as much as possible. Which is obviously easier said than done.
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Not trying to be douchey or superior I just feel like I am around a lot of low value people that try to drag me down. I've been hanging with dudes that have barely been passing high school....its pathetic.I wouldnt be judging peoples value based on their grades at school. Thats narrow minded.
okay I failed to provide enough detail and your right, these people I am talking about are overall shitty people with bad attitudes that berate me for my goals and values. They should have been dropped a long time ago.
Just a reminder - don't focus on these people that you hold you back.
Don't 'try' to go away from what you don't 'want'. Focus on what you desire in life and always move towards that. You'll forget about the things that hold you back and don't serve you. After awhile of practicing shifting your attention on the things you desire in life and moving towards them, nothing will really bother you anymore.
You look for the benefit in everything, and if there is none, your attention just kind of focuses towards something else instead. If those people stay in your life, you'll find they don't really bother you and in fact they would be there for a reason. Always focusing on the beneficial things in life, the bad things just don't make it to your reality, you naturally ignore them or always find something good about them.
If you harbor resentment or negativity towards them or others like them, you'll just keep having those kinds of people show up in your life.
Forget about the bullshit. Move towards the stuff that makes you feel good. "Whatever you give your dominant attention to will become your reality"
My biggest shift lately is figuring out that it is completely okay to live and handle shit exactly the way I want to do it.My whole life I've always asked myself why I don't behave like "normal" people. I wondered why I had to take my school work so seriously while everyone slacks off, why I feel the need to keep myself healthy while everyone else is content eating crap and sitting on their ass, why I actually don't enjoy drinking every weekend, or why I take pride in doing quality work at my crappy job while all my co-workers fuck off all day.
I'm glad that I am living with standards that build success. Maybe I'm not normal and I am often busy improving myself but it is what it takes to become an accomplished person. Sometimes it sucks because I feel all this influence of my friends that want to pull me away from what I really want to be doing. I would be a bitch if I let other people guide my life.
the question is if this is your own value or has been imprinted on you by your parents. i am pretty much the same but i am not entirely sure what is the truth, and while this is good for improvement in certain areas, it might hinder you in others. in my case it's linked to certain psychosomatic issues that cause depression, and when you're really identified with these 'focused, proactive, want to be top' values, you might be scared to even exploring if they are your own. which in my case leads to very slow progress in therapy. and there's also the matter of life/work balance, and not burning out in the long run.
I've never had this issue, as my parents always encouraged me to make my own choices, but here's something that may help:
Society Expectation Externalizer