Visualizations (2-3 min a day, or infield when necessary)
The weak part of our brain will create ties to other people, or social environments. They will be thick mucousy cords that run from us to them. It is that fearful vestigial psychological mechanism that holds us in mental bondage to not "act out" for fear of being judged. The mental ramifications of this aren't that visible to most, evade attention, but actually run really deep. If you don't watch out most of your waking life can be spent in some kind of mental bondage to an expectation we feel, either coming from someone or something.
But these cords are not real! It is not our place to think about what others are thinking of us, and we could never possibly know. We are fretting over things we have no idea about, based on standards that are imaginary, something illusory, and it isn't our place as strong independent men to allow our focus to be used up in such a futile process.
Remember the story about my friend crossing the street, "feeling" the eyes of everyone in their cars upon him. He felt embarrassed and self-conscious. This was bullshit! When you feel social expectations upon you, whether it's a hot girl, or a guy that intimidates you, or a social situation that has a hold on you, I want you to visualize the cords, the ties that are running along the ground from you to them, and I want you to visualize severing them, cutting the cord. And feel the immediate disconnection from that debilitating expectation. Cut all of them and feel your awareness and attention drawing back into yourself. You have gained back all your empowerment, you now see only through YOUR eyes.
Fear gives a false representation of itself
Sometimes I allow myself to feel my fears, to experience them and see what they are made of. But they are always weak. The hold a fear has, its weight, is never what it seems. Don't run from it feel it, and realize it has no power over you.