This is a weird conversation- kind of similar to my in-person interactions lately
Sat, 08/11/2012 - 02:16
Okay, I wanted to post this text convo cause It's kind of similar to a lot of my in-person interactions lately...
Just in the sense that there are very few actual "signs" of her being interested but I just went for the meetup anyway and I still have work to do but she SEEMS receptive... despite having such super short responses to my texts and taking like 2 days to respond.
I'm in this zone (and I think it's becuase I really am approaching and talking to THE HOTTEST girls) where girls just aren't giving me any "signals" and, at times, are actually showing me "negative signals" but I just push through and keep taking action and then it's like, I go in for the makeout, or go in for the meetup and it's like... oh... yeah let's do it.
For me, this was really interesting... I actually had just figured this was a dead number until she texteed me back like 2 days after I asked her if she liked ice cream and all ofa sudden she's asking me questions and cracking JUST A LITTLE:
Me: Be careful- I heard moving to San Fran promotes spontaneous "Hipster Growth"... symptoms include but are not limited to: A strange affinity to skinny jeans, and an unusual tendency to wear nothing but black.. PLEASE tell me this won't happen to you
Her: Ahaha I hope this does not happen to me!
Me: Lmao, what would an Asian hipster even look like
Her: Like all the other Asian hipsters
Her: I however am latin, not a tan Asian lol
Me: Lmao, whoops : /... how long are you staying in SF for?
Her: I live here
Me: Fuck that
Her: ?
Me: What...
Her: Fuck that?
Me: wtvr
Her: Wtvr u!
Me: you tricked me into thinking your Asian... DICK
Her: Latin>Asian
Me: Hon I'm not going to hold it against you. Just because you tried tricking me into thinking your Asian. Ice cream heals all wounds
Her: I didn't try ticking u
Me: Dick
Her: Butthead
Me: Lmao, what's your work schedule like this week?
Her: I don't work till Friday
Me: You like ice cream?
Her: Ice cream is the best
Me: Def. agree... let's grab some ice cream next week. Ice cream and wine is probably the best combination ever created
Her: Malbec and coffee ice cream is my fav
Me: Oh shit.. I'm all about chunky monkey. You grab the malbec and ill bring the ice cream... what's your schedule look like
Her: I'll never cheat on cherry garcia with chunky monkey! I'm busy till Tuesday
Her: Do you live in sf?
Also- if anyone has any advise with how to respond to make sure this gets going in the right direction, HOOK IT UPPPP.
Just in the sense that there are very few actual "signs" of her being interested but I just went for the meetup anyway and I still have work to do but she SEEMS receptive... despite having such super short responses to my texts and taking like 2 days to respond.
I'm in this zone (and I think it's becuase I really am approaching and talking to THE HOTTEST girls) where girls just aren't giving me any "signals" and, at times, are actually showing me "negative signals" but I just push through and keep taking action and then it's like, I go in for the makeout, or go in for the meetup and it's like... oh... yeah let's do it.
For me, this was really interesting... I actually had just figured this was a dead number until she texteed me back like 2 days after I asked her if she liked ice cream and all ofa sudden she's asking me questions and cracking JUST A LITTLE:
Me: Be careful- I heard moving to San Fran promotes spontaneous "Hipster Growth"... symptoms include but are not limited to: A strange affinity to skinny jeans, and an unusual tendency to wear nothing but black.. PLEASE tell me this won't happen to you
Her: Ahaha I hope this does not happen to me!
Me: Lmao, what would an Asian hipster even look like
Her: Like all the other Asian hipsters
Her: I however am latin, not a tan Asian lol
Me: Lmao, whoops : /... how long are you staying in SF for?
Her: I live here
Me: Fuck that
Her: ?
Me: What...
Her: Fuck that?
Me: wtvr
Her: Wtvr u!
Me: you tricked me into thinking your Asian... DICK
Her: Latin>Asian
Me: Hon I'm not going to hold it against you. Just because you tried tricking me into thinking your Asian. Ice cream heals all wounds
Her: I didn't try ticking u
Me: Dick
Her: Butthead
Me: Lmao, what's your work schedule like this week?
Her: I don't work till Friday
Me: You like ice cream?
Her: Ice cream is the best
Me: Def. agree... let's grab some ice cream next week. Ice cream and wine is probably the best combination ever created
Her: Malbec and coffee ice cream is my fav
Me: Oh shit.. I'm all about chunky monkey. You grab the malbec and ill bring the ice cream... what's your schedule look like
Her: I'll never cheat on cherry garcia with chunky monkey! I'm busy till Tuesday
Her: Do you live in sf?
Also- if anyone has any advise with how to respond to make sure this gets going in the right direction, HOOK IT UPPPP.
Sat, 08/11/2012 - 02:24
#1
also
@buddhagames:
Oh- and I should just add, one more time...
This girl is SO FUCKING HOT...
Holy shit- it IS crazy how, even if I'm not getting tons of dates or lays yet... Just the fact that I'm starting to consistently talk and get the numbers of these girls is literally MIND BLOWING... These are the girls that guys look at in the club and just stare at and never approach.
haha SUCKS FOR THEM.
Oh- and I should just add, one more time...
This girl is SO FUCKING HOT...
Holy shit- it IS crazy how, even if I'm not getting tons of dates or lays yet... Just the fact that I'm starting to consistently talk and get the numbers of these girls is literally MIND BLOWING... These are the girls that guys look at in the club and just stare at and never approach.
haha SUCKS FOR THEM.
Sat, 08/11/2012 - 02:50
#2
Re: also
@buddhagames:
I think a sticking point for me right now, is that, on some level, I'm looking for others to add value to the interaction, or maybe more accurately, "I'm looking for permission, in the form of validation, from the girl, in order to continue"
It's like I'll grab her hand and in my head it's like, "Okay.. if she doesn't let go, I'm good to go BUT if she lets go it means she's not into me... so I need to do something"
1. That means I'm not being present
2. That's FUCKING BULLSHIT... Last night I actually had a situation where, for the first time, I really pushed past this exact sticking point with a SMOKING HOT chick (she's a volleyball player at ucsb) like 5'9, georgeous hair, nice solid b cup and the biggest fucking ass ever, holy shit.... But yeah, I pushed through it and she ended up being super super into me and invested and letting me basically do wtvr I wanted physically.
3. It's not about "having" attraction... it's about, "Assuming Attraction"- the difference between those two is basically where my sticking point lies. I do know, on some level, that I have attraction from pretty much any girl I open at this point. But, partly because this is sorta new to me... but basically when it actually comes down to it and I'm in the interaction- I don't assume this attraction- so deep down I still don't believe it's there... despite intellectually and maybe even one or two layers down, knowing it's there. This manifests itself in my looking for validation from the girl in order to continue the interaction and seeing my state drop (albeit it very subtle) when she doesn't comply or when she shows potential "signs" or wtvr of not being receptive to my physical advances.
4. I need to come to the DEEP understanding of how much value I'm bringing to the table. I am really grateful that I have solid wings and dudes like manwhore who basically tell me on a regular basis... "Uhhhh dude... you have some pretty fucking amazing qualities that a lot of guys just don't have"... having guys who are hoenst and confident enough in themselves to be able to see this in me and tell me helps BUT on a certain level, I have to come to understand this on a very deep level, within myself.
5. It's interesting cause at a certain point- you have to just take the "right action" regardless of whether or not you "believe" in it... and then, over time, you start to believe in it because you start to see results...
For example- last night, I had a girl who came outside with me to smoke... and then, albeit slightly hesitantly, walked with me to the store to get cigarretes (same girl I was talking about before)... you see- THIS WAS THE MOMENT TO FUCK. She lived right around the corner from the bar AND was walking with me to the store- was outside with me... THIS WAS THE MOMENT.... but I just didn't see any "signs" LMFAO-
BUDDHAGAMES- GET IT THROUGH YOUR FUCKING SKULL AT THIS POINT.... THESE HOT GIRLS DONT OWE YOU SHIT, THEY HAVE TONS OF DUDES ON THEIR PUSSY ALL THE FUCKING TIME. THEY AREN'T GOING TO SHOW YOU SIGNS BECAUSE THEY DONT WANT TO WASTE THEIR FUCKING TIME WITH A GOD DAMN PUSSY ASS BITCH PERMISSION BOY. SO SACK THE FUCK UP, TAKE ACTION, STOP BEING SO AFRAID OF REJECTION AND JUST DO WHAT YOU NEED TO DO.
awesome.
I think a sticking point for me right now, is that, on some level, I'm looking for others to add value to the interaction, or maybe more accurately, "I'm looking for permission, in the form of validation, from the girl, in order to continue"
It's like I'll grab her hand and in my head it's like, "Okay.. if she doesn't let go, I'm good to go BUT if she lets go it means she's not into me... so I need to do something"
1. That means I'm not being present
2. That's FUCKING BULLSHIT... Last night I actually had a situation where, for the first time, I really pushed past this exact sticking point with a SMOKING HOT chick (she's a volleyball player at ucsb) like 5'9, georgeous hair, nice solid b cup and the biggest fucking ass ever, holy shit.... But yeah, I pushed through it and she ended up being super super into me and invested and letting me basically do wtvr I wanted physically.
3. It's not about "having" attraction... it's about, "Assuming Attraction"- the difference between those two is basically where my sticking point lies. I do know, on some level, that I have attraction from pretty much any girl I open at this point. But, partly because this is sorta new to me... but basically when it actually comes down to it and I'm in the interaction- I don't assume this attraction- so deep down I still don't believe it's there... despite intellectually and maybe even one or two layers down, knowing it's there. This manifests itself in my looking for validation from the girl in order to continue the interaction and seeing my state drop (albeit it very subtle) when she doesn't comply or when she shows potential "signs" or wtvr of not being receptive to my physical advances.
4. I need to come to the DEEP understanding of how much value I'm bringing to the table. I am really grateful that I have solid wings and dudes like manwhore who basically tell me on a regular basis... "Uhhhh dude... you have some pretty fucking amazing qualities that a lot of guys just don't have"... having guys who are hoenst and confident enough in themselves to be able to see this in me and tell me helps BUT on a certain level, I have to come to understand this on a very deep level, within myself.
5. It's interesting cause at a certain point- you have to just take the "right action" regardless of whether or not you "believe" in it... and then, over time, you start to believe in it because you start to see results...
For example- last night, I had a girl who came outside with me to smoke... and then, albeit slightly hesitantly, walked with me to the store to get cigarretes (same girl I was talking about before)... you see- THIS WAS THE MOMENT TO FUCK. She lived right around the corner from the bar AND was walking with me to the store- was outside with me... THIS WAS THE MOMENT.... but I just didn't see any "signs" LMFAO-
BUDDHAGAMES- GET IT THROUGH YOUR FUCKING SKULL AT THIS POINT.... THESE HOT GIRLS DONT OWE YOU SHIT, THEY HAVE TONS OF DUDES ON THEIR PUSSY ALL THE FUCKING TIME. THEY AREN'T GOING TO SHOW YOU SIGNS BECAUSE THEY DONT WANT TO WASTE THEIR FUCKING TIME WITH A GOD DAMN PUSSY ASS BITCH PERMISSION BOY. SO SACK THE FUCK UP, TAKE ACTION, STOP BEING SO AFRAID OF REJECTION AND JUST DO WHAT YOU NEED TO DO.
awesome.
Sat, 08/11/2012 - 06:08
#3
Re: also
@buddhagames:
I love when other guys have the epiphanies your are about to have and then write them up. I just posted a bit on rsdnation on an ephinany I had just today and seemed to help out a guy a lot.
Anddd what you said here I resonate with. Like I won't be in my head but when a girl lets go of my hand I'm like... Well shit... Like not really emotionally hurt at all but it's like did I eff up? How do I go from here? When the answer is - it doesn't matter. as long as your leading and are unreactive. But to go in for the makeout when your getting zero lights for it (no big eyes, no flirtyness) is soo ballsy for me to do now. Which means I'm still pinging of her a bit right?
Like going in for a kiss without anything is so foreign to me
Also on the other hand there is a hot Asian in my basement doing school work as I type. I'm texting her in my bed now and am going to head downstairs soon and sex her :) :) :)
I love when other guys have the epiphanies your are about to have and then write them up. I just posted a bit on rsdnation on an ephinany I had just today and seemed to help out a guy a lot.
Anddd what you said here I resonate with. Like I won't be in my head but when a girl lets go of my hand I'm like... Well shit... Like not really emotionally hurt at all but it's like did I eff up? How do I go from here? When the answer is - it doesn't matter. as long as your leading and are unreactive. But to go in for the makeout when your getting zero lights for it (no big eyes, no flirtyness) is soo ballsy for me to do now. Which means I'm still pinging of her a bit right?
Like going in for a kiss without anything is so foreign to me
Also on the other hand there is a hot Asian in my basement doing school work as I type. I'm texting her in my bed now and am going to head downstairs soon and sex her :) :) :)
Sat, 08/11/2012 - 09:22
#4
Re: also
@icewahine:
Pics or it didn't happen.
Pics or it didn't happen.
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Sat, 08/11/2012 - 10:25
#5
Re: also
@Manwhore:
I think the easiest thing to do is talk closely to her face, if her lips are inches away from yours then just force the makeout. It usually has no effect on the interaction if you're kinda unfazed.
I think the easiest thing to do is talk closely to her face, if her lips are inches away from yours then just force the makeout. It usually has no effect on the interaction if you're kinda unfazed.
Sat, 08/11/2012 - 15:13
#6
actions lately
Hey pumpkin. I talked to cherry garcia and chunky munky. They're down to hook up so it won't be cheating.
She responds..
Problem is they're only down for a threesome. We're going to have to thumbwar for this one.
Then go for logistics
It's a bit contrived. But so's your face!! >:o
She responds..
Problem is they're only down for a threesome. We're going to have to thumbwar for this one.
Then go for logistics
It's a bit contrived. But so's your face!! >:o
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I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Sun, 08/12/2012 - 23:54
#7
Re: actions lately
@Manwhore:
Me: Be careful- I heard moving to San francisco promos spontaneous "Hipster growth".. symptoms include but are not limited to: a strange affinity to skinny jeans, and an unusual tendency to wear nothing but black.. PLEASE tell me this won't happen to you
Girl - 33 mins later: Ahaha I hope this does not happen to me!
Me - 5 hrs 22 mins later: Lmao, What would an Asian hypster even look like
Girl - 39 mins later: Like all the other Asian hipsters
Girl: I however am latin,not a tan Asian lol
Me - 1 hr 16 mins later: Lmao, whoops : /... how long are you staying in SF for?
Girl - 17 mins later: I live here
Me - 16 hrs 5 mins later: Fuck that
Girl - 5 mins later: ?
Me: What...
Girl - 4 mins later: Fuck that?
Me - 4 hrs 26 mins later: Wtvr
Girl - 5 mins later: Wtvr u!
Me - 1 hr 4 mins later: You tricked me into thinking your Asian... DICK
Girl - 6 mins later: Latin > asian
Me - 2 hrs 59 mins later: Hon I'm not going to hold it against you. Just because you tried tricibg me into thinking you were Asian. Ice cream heals all wounds
Girl - 17 mins later: I didn't try tricking u
Me - 14 mins later: Dick
Girl: Butthead
Me - 1 min later: Lmao, what's your work schedule like this week?
Girl - 14 hrs 38 mins later: I don't work till Friday
Me - 2 hrs 47 mins later: You like ice cream?
Girl - 1 day 21 hrs later: Ice cream is the best
Me - 1 hr 27 mins later: Def. Agree... lets grab some ice cream next week. Ice cream and wine is probably the best combination ever created
Girl - 15 mins later: Malbec and coffee ice cream is my fav
Me - 9 mins later: Oh shit... I'm all about chunky monkey. You grab the malbec and ill bring the ice cream... what's your schedual look like
Girl - 40 mins later: I'll never cheat on cherry garcia with chunky monkey!I'm busy till Tuesday
Girl - 7 mins later: Do u live in sf?
Me - 1 day 1 hr later: Hey pumpkin, I talked to cherry Garcia and chunky monkey. They're down to hook up so it wont be cheating
Girl - 21 hrs 41 mins later: Haha well as long as they don't mind
Me: Problem is they're only down for a threesome. We're going to have to thumbwar for this one.
Me: Be careful- I heard moving to San francisco promos spontaneous "Hipster growth".. symptoms include but are not limited to: a strange affinity to skinny jeans, and an unusual tendency to wear nothing but black.. PLEASE tell me this won't happen to you
Girl - 33 mins later: Ahaha I hope this does not happen to me!
Me - 5 hrs 22 mins later: Lmao, What would an Asian hypster even look like
Girl - 39 mins later: Like all the other Asian hipsters
Girl: I however am latin,not a tan Asian lol
Me - 1 hr 16 mins later: Lmao, whoops : /... how long are you staying in SF for?
Girl - 17 mins later: I live here
Me - 16 hrs 5 mins later: Fuck that
Girl - 5 mins later: ?
Me: What...
Girl - 4 mins later: Fuck that?
Me - 4 hrs 26 mins later: Wtvr
Girl - 5 mins later: Wtvr u!
Me - 1 hr 4 mins later: You tricked me into thinking your Asian... DICK
Girl - 6 mins later: Latin > asian
Me - 2 hrs 59 mins later: Hon I'm not going to hold it against you. Just because you tried tricibg me into thinking you were Asian. Ice cream heals all wounds
Girl - 17 mins later: I didn't try tricking u
Me - 14 mins later: Dick
Girl: Butthead
Me - 1 min later: Lmao, what's your work schedule like this week?
Girl - 14 hrs 38 mins later: I don't work till Friday
Me - 2 hrs 47 mins later: You like ice cream?
Girl - 1 day 21 hrs later: Ice cream is the best
Me - 1 hr 27 mins later: Def. Agree... lets grab some ice cream next week. Ice cream and wine is probably the best combination ever created
Girl - 15 mins later: Malbec and coffee ice cream is my fav
Me - 9 mins later: Oh shit... I'm all about chunky monkey. You grab the malbec and ill bring the ice cream... what's your schedual look like
Girl - 40 mins later: I'll never cheat on cherry garcia with chunky monkey!I'm busy till Tuesday
Girl - 7 mins later: Do u live in sf?
Me - 1 day 1 hr later: Hey pumpkin, I talked to cherry Garcia and chunky monkey. They're down to hook up so it wont be cheating
Girl - 21 hrs 41 mins later: Haha well as long as they don't mind
Me: Problem is they're only down for a threesome. We're going to have to thumbwar for this one.