Weird experience with a chick
Okay so this chick added me on facebook a couple weeks ago so i accepter and texted her. Turns out her mom knows my mom so somehow she looked me up and added me.
I met her today and she was much cuter than on facebook but it turns out she never goes out and pretty much is only at home studying. She came and picked me up at my house with her car, and said she has to leave in like 3 hours because she is only in this city during the weekends.
We went to a place to eat some snacks and drink a beer, and then we went for a walk. I was on 3 hours of sleep and pretty hungover so not on my A+ game. I was being physical at times like play with her hair a bit, check out her tattoos and placed my hand on her chest to see if her pulse was beating fast from walking but not really escalating
When done walking she had to go pack her bags so we went to her car and there i leaned in to kiss her, and she was like "no..."... so i just paused for some seconds and then we started making out. When i was done she was like "why did you do that?" with this weird look on her face.
I was surprised because this never happened to me before so i just said "because i like you" or something like that and she still had this weird look on her face and asked me the same question again. In my mind i'm just like "wtf, what kind of question is that, i kissed you because i'm a guy and you're a girl and you're hot" .So i'm just like "okay, so youre coming back on friday. I'm leaving tomorrow and i will be back on friday aswell. I will text you then" and left.
10 minutes later she texts me
Her: why did you do that?
Me: well i liked you
Me: if you didn't then we can be just friends <--- like for real i don't even mind being friends with girls . Female friends = more girs
Her: let's take it slow
Her: it's hard for me
Her: because you don't live here
Her: for you maybe it's just for the moment
Me: yeah one has got to live in the moment
Her: it won't be in the moment forever
Me: well today was in the moment we're barely getting to know each other :)
Her: well okay then
Her: text me on whatsapp if you can
So i add her on whatsapp and she has a pic of her and her boyfriend as profile pic?
Lol, totally not used to this type of behaviour from chicks. I mean if she would have rejected me i would have totally fine with, i have plenty of other girls to choose from ;) but she didn't and then she made a big deal out if it for some reason. Now i don't really know what to think. What would you guys have done?
Her: it's hard for me because you don't live here <----- lol dafuq? maybe she just wasn't that into me or maybe she is just crazy
Well you didn't run proper game so you can't blame anything on the girl. Ha! The idea is to overwhelm her, in this case to overwhelm her natural propensities to be a little inexperienced prude. What you did was "just enough" to land you in the danger zone with her by inciting her natural resistance. E.g. her "asd". Right now you're just trying to salvage the situation.
As far as your second post, same thing.. your game should be good enough to easily compensate for that. But regardless it's very common for girls to have natural resistance to hooking up with someone they deem a tourist. You're not aware of this? Thought you'd already been dealing with this. You're visiting your aunt down there yeah? And her mom knows your mom so she knows your deal.
As far as next steps just message her on whatsapp, keep the vibe good, LEAD it, and set up the next date. You're not going to fix the situation with a single text, I probably could, but the fact you got yourself in this situation in the first place is the same reason it's going to take some deliberating on your part to create the shifts here 'n there to get things back on track.
I would not say things like "We're barely getting to know each other." Papaya you should take a look through a few of the text game threads on the forum to see what proper textual vibing looks like. It's supposed to be super vibrant.
Yeah i did let her get into my head man. If she was a random chick i wouldn't had cared but her knowing my mum probably affected me when she reacted like that.
I was trying to salvage the situation yeah, but not like afraid to lose the girl, but just to avoid drama, haha.Turns out she really has a boyfriend aswell.
on whatsapp she started sending kissing emojis and calling me romantic names in spanish and i was really busy all day and texting with other girls aswell so i wasn't as engaging as maybe i should have been, so she started calling me out on being "cold", but then says that it's fine if that's just the way i am. I think she was being true but still testing me
And yeah definitely man, i have much much much more vibrant text convos with some other chicks, i bet they smile everytime they see my name on their phone lol :) with this chick i'm pretty sure she will still meet up with me, just needed advice on leading it in the right direction without bullshit or some drama. Not trying to salvage anything with a single text lol. All other girls i've been with i have just had fun vibes with so not used to this shit at all.
Definitely gonna try to keep a better vibe and lead more. I think i was too aloof
She is coming over in like 5 minutes. She broke up with her BF aswell....
I'm a bit nervous!
Do some pushups and situps. Concentrate on a single point of consciousness. Know that you are a man, and you do what needs to be done. ;)