What do I say first when I'll forced to see a girl who "rejected" me?
Hello all! Newbie here. How do you do? :-)
I need help figuring out what to say next in this simple situation....so short story: I had to go in to a print shop 3 times in a short time span...and I'm very friendly and I tend to talk and make friends anywhere.... anyway, so the next time I went in it was busy and I had time to stand around and try to connect...one of the girls talking about a supercool motorbike her brother brought and I got in the conversation....the other girl told my target to email her a pic of the bike to which I quickly say "email me too"...now my target didn't say literally "okay" ......but the other girl started writing down my address with my target repeating my address helping the other girl write it down....did my shit...gave a wave and left...but I never got an email so I thought maybe she lost it or she is creeped or what?
I just want to be friends first..I have to go in again and I want to know whether I should avoid asking her casually when will I get the pic? Or how do I bring it up? How do I get her info? She is 18 and she goes out every night so I guess she must already have enough attention. The shit part is before I knew she is a "party" girl I mentioned I hate clubbing etc. to which my target responds "you guys can be best friends" *points to her friend*....so what do I do? I want her to be interested but I guess she is not interested right since she didn't email? I gave the email as a test to see whether she will make the effort...the other thing is I'm few years older than her and she found out when we were talking in store and she said "wow thought you were way younger".maybe she is like ....I'm a boring oldie?
The reason I started paying attention to her is because I caught her looking at me frequently so I thought I'd give it a go...tips on how to proceed?
Sorry if I posted in the wrong place...
You really can't expect anything from that sort of close and should never thing about it again or bring it up. Were you in the convo involved with the bike? If you were cool that's great, but using that as a context to get a girl's contact info is very weak. And come to find out you were trying to use it to start talking to her. Super weak and perceived as chode.
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Yes it was weak. I'm new to gaming...yes, the three of us were talking about different things before the bike came up..I know it wasn't smooth but I thought it was a chance to get a connection without seeming like I'm trying to "get" her...so do I talk with the same friendliness when I see her or be silent? And, so getting her info is a lost cause for sure?
What's chode mean in this context? LOL. Yep, that clueless.
How do I edit posts?
I wanted to add that I actually was truly interested in that pic though. LOL
Oh crap..one more thing..not sure what the reason is butn one time when it was just the two us (target and I) talking on an earlier visit she told me she is 23..only later for her friend to say she is actually 18. Why did she lie?
She looked so young when I first saw her so I had asked "are you a student/intern" to which she said "no, I'm 23...not that young..."
Huh? Why lie?
How do I edit posts?I wanted to add that I actually was truly interested in that pic though. LOL
Oh, now I see the edit button!
Yeah you talk to her like nothing happened. Because first of all nothing happened, and second of all even if it did, nothing happened. You are above it all, baby.
You can always create context for hanging out with a chick..
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Yeah you talk to her like nothing happened. Because first of all nothing happened, and second of all even if it did, nothing happened. You are above it all, baby.You can always create context for hanging out with a chick..
Alright! I'll be my usual friendly self! The other thing is they know my family too as they have gone there too and the non-target girl will sometimes say "just saw your dad today" ...which annoys me as we don't speak but she thought I live with them which I don't. Feels a bit weird they "know" about me cause they know my family by sight...I'm not explaining this well....my concern is....well, without mentioning an activity and ask her to tag...how do I get her number in a platonic way? I don't want her to thnk I'm interested. I just want establish TEXT contact but in a way that shows complete non-interest Looking for a reason to get her number or offer mine in a slick way? Any tips? Or since she never emailed I should never ever try to connect again as she clearly probably doesn't want to? Or does she?
Funny thing is...I used to be sorta good at this. Girls tend to like me but I haven't practiced in two years..an example, the girls at a coffee shop I used to go often all have my numbers and they used to even take their breaks with me. And one day, one of the barista got jealous while she preparing a drink (she saw me talking to a customer and she kept staring) that she took her break right then...plopped down beside me and elbowed me trying to get my attention while I as trying to get a number. What was I talking about? Oh ya..my point was I wasn't such a loser always. LOL.
Any particular reason you don't want her to know you're interested? Don't think you can get her yet? What's the thinking there
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
I just had some serious life shit in the last few months...I'm looking to slowly hang with girls...not looking for sex right now really but I noticed that everytime I chat up a girl she gets superexcited then I'm into her but sometimes I just need some female hanging out time with possible sexual stuff but not really. Also, cause I dont want her starting to talk to my family one day saying " im hanging with you son etc."cause dont want them to know anything about my life so I want to feel her out over text....see what type of chick she is...before even bring out hanging out....im a weirdo ...lol
Oh....and beautiful girls cheer me up and I guess I like how they make me feel.....like I'm good enough for them stilll though I feel shitty right now. And to be honest I need to be able to touch her but I can't perform sexually right now...lol.
Any particular reason you don't want her to know you're interested? Don't think you can get her yet? What's the thinking there
oops, i always forget to quote. those last two posts were in response to you.
Hi bud. First off, if you're looking for female attention in order to feel good I believe you're looking in the wrong place. Believe me I struggle with that myself. Also, most of us here who take this somewhat seriously are looking to learn how to escalate sexually and believe that man/woman, sexual, romantic relationships stem from sex. If there is something prohibiting you from doing so (physically, emotionally or otherwise) I think it should be addressed immediately.
I would invite and encourage you to be more specific about your story and what's up with you. If you did I think you'd find a pretty knowledgable and willing group of guys who are here to help
Hey dude,
What everyone is suggesting is helpful and a better alternative. If you're just looking for validation from the girl in the way of her hanging out with you that's the wrong route to take. Validation is a weird, drug like thing and I wouldn't use it to make yourself feel better. So many different things you can do to clear the mind and create actual happiness and comfortability in your own head. These guys here recommend Tolle for a reason, I was unsure and not into it before, I gave it a try and my mindset has completely flipped. Give it a shot bud, also try some hobbies, just get lost in things you love... Get a path and stay on it.. I did and it's honestly the best for a clear, positive head space.
:)
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
lol manwhore haha
Hi bud. First off, if you're looking for female attention in order to feel good I believe you're looking in the wrong place. Believe me I struggle with that myself. Also, most of us here who take this somewhat seriously are looking to learn how to escalate sexually and believe that man/woman, sexual, romantic relationships stem from sex. If there is something prohibiting you from doing so (physically, emotionally or otherwise) I think it should be addressed immediately.I would invite and encourage you to be more specific about your story and what's up with you. If you did I think you'd find a pretty knowledgable and willing group of guys who are here to help
I definitely want to touch women but not go fully on at the moment. Like I would fingerbang. I feel inexperienced. I am trying to address my issues. I want the physical closeness but women run away cause I tend to be a very private person...(while I care about people a lot in general and I put my friends' needs over my own )....I hate talkng about myself...but I might come off as weird since I like some chick but I'm secretive.
Hey dude,What everyone is suggesting is helpful and a better alternative. If you're just looking for validation from the girl in the way of her hanging out with you that's the wrong route to take. Validation is a weird, drug like thing and I wouldn't use it to make yourself feel better. So many different things you can do to clear the mind and create actual happiness and comfortability in your own head. These guys here recommend Tolle for a reason, I was unsure and not into it before, I gave it a try and my mindset has completely flipped. Give it a shot bud, also try some hobbies, just get lost in things you love... Get a path and stay on it.. I did and it's honestly the best for a clear, positive head space.
Definitely not looking for just validation but I need to be eased in. Who is Tolle? Pretty big issue now is money. I'm struggling cause of medical reasons.
Blanche are you on prescription medication?
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Well last night I ran into a super hot girl. And I'm hoping you all can suggestions some openers and "closers"? Story: I had got off the bus and the girls gets off after me (didn't know it was girl prior to exiting bus)....well we get off and I look to the side facing her cause I was a little bit annoyed cause she had kicked my shoe when I was getting off....anyway she gives me a huge smile and stares at me for seconds..unfortunately I was exhausted last night and had no game...what do I do? nothing but look away...feel so dumb. thing is we have seen each other before cause she lives in the next building next to mine (or so I think)...maybe she visits?....so the first time I saw her I noticed her right away cause of her cute pink hair...so if I ever see her again or is there a way to "run" into her? what can say next time instead of being silent? I NEED HER info. She is a 10. And she looked interested...
Blanche are you on prescription medication?
lol strange question. why? u mean are u asking if I'm nuts?
sorry if i type "nuts" but i do try to type my shit into as short sentences as possible as im on my phone one finger typing
....its hell. i dont own a computer. geez u make me feel bad....IM NOT nuts and no im not on psych meds.
so trying to type all the angles of my "thoughts" into as little time as possible is gonna come off fragmented..