What I'm working on: Inducing eye contact
Every night I meet a few women who don't make strong eye contact, which limits the connection I can make from them. A lot of the times it's a manifestation of disinterest. Other times it's just something they out of habit when talking to new people, or in some cases they just don't ever make strong eye contact.
Either way, I've seeing if there are ways I can induce them into making stronger eye contact.
-A classic one is to ask what color are their eyes, then complement them on their eyes.
-One that I came up with is to cold read that their career involves a lot of paper work or computers. When they ask why, I say I'm guessing they don't work with a lot of people just from a first impression of their body language and eye contact. A subtle comment to induce their awareness about their eye contact.
-Changing the energy and intensity of the interaction. I'll hold her hand or do some social kino when I emphasize and important/emotional point.
If this someone you guys have been experiencing and working on?
Most people have some form of neediness coming out of their eyes. It's hard for other people to look at. But for guys trying to learn pickup it's like a fucking disease.. gauging reactions, scrutinizing for approval or signs of attraction. That's the real issue here. I'd tell you to stop doing it, but you won't be able to
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
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Most people have some form of neediness coming out of their eyes. It's hard for other people to look at. But for guys trying to learn pickup it's like a fucking disease.. gauging reactions, scrutinizing for approval or signs of attraction. That's the real issue here. I'd tell you to stop doing it, but you won't be able to
The next step would be just to gain conscious awareness of this neediness. I'm gonna work on outcome independence/ acceptance visualizations for my prep work, and just have an awareness of those emotions and it's manifestations next couple nights I go out. Gonna be interesting.
You're playing with fucking scraps
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
I think you should just demand eye contact by being more assertive instead of trying to make it logical with questions about eye color. From there you should be able to tell if she is just putting up a front or if she is really not interested in talking to you.