What should I reply to this text with?
Back and forth with this hottie on Match for about a week. I got her to the point where she was ready to meet up, but then she stopped communicating. This was on a Friday morning when we were on the brink of setting something up (presumably for that night). It's Sunday night, now, and I send her this email to ping:
Me: You must be afraid of falling in love with me, because I know you're not afraid of being bored.
Her: I'm more worried that you might drug me with some all natural love potion!
In my profile I mention that I'm into Chinese and Ayurevedic herbs. So, I'm guessing that is where this is coming from. Also, I think there is an intoxication element here - as in "I don't want to be responsible for what happens, if I do meet up with you".
Professional girl. 35. Very attractive. Probably hasn't been fucked in a while.
Hm I need more info here mang give me the previous messages. I don't know which direction to take this in, either totally innocent and lay off the sexy vibe, OR, exactly the opposite. Need more details
Is she asian?
This is my 3rd email attempt trying to open her on Match.com followed by her first email to me:
ME: [ Thurs morning] There is chemistry here. Yes...I know you like my profile. So, why the hesitation? Am I ALL the things you want in a man? No. Does THAT man even exist? Who knows, but you're not gonna find him analyzing profiles. And how much chemistry is there going to be with a guy who has passed your profile analysis test? You either know it or not. And it only takes a minute or two to know. Chemistry is the litmus test for the here and now. Meet me for coffee, wine, or beer. If there's chemistry, I'll seduce you. Simple as that.
HER: [Thurs 8pm] I admit your persistence is admirable. But I'm not convinced this isn't an email template. How do you know there's chemistry already? Your profile says it takes a few emails and this is my first.
ME: [ Thrus 9pm] Meet me for a drink and I'll answer your questions.
HER: [Thurs 9:40pm] Ok, I'm game. When, where? I live in lower Haight.
ME: [Thurs 10pm] Do you work in the morning?
ME: [ Thurs 10:40pm] There's a cool dive near my place called #####.
HER: [Fri 10am] Too far - you'll have to come this way.
ME: [ Fri 10:20] Any fave spots up your way? ### - ###- #### (my cell)
At this point the trail goes cold until I ping her on Sunday night with the email mentioned in the opening topic.
She is not asian. She is white.
When you do these quick "forceful" closes/meetup attempts like this, you're walking a tightrope. Girls are prey creatures, they run at the slightest provocation. Just like horses
What might have helped, though would definitely not have ensured her compliance to meeting up, is if you had made it as easy as possible by doing all the thinking and planning. As soon as you asked her where you two should go it put too much on her. Regardless, it would have been a much better idea to make her more comfortable with you by talking to her a bit more. If you continue hitting girls up in this way, you're just going to have to understand that there's a large subset of women you'll lose.
damn even if you did meet up with her i think she would have you wrapped around her finger. she's know you want to get laid bad, and she'll just make you sweat and act prudish. that's just my two cents.
^ Damn bro you are super high up the ass of the "always be the prize" dynamic. Way too much. You said in the other thread you cringed when you saw me compliment a girl? You got to relax that mang.
ok thanks man, i'll keep that in mind, maybe i'm nitpicking too much.
The conclusion on this story was a steamy 8 month relationship! I hit all the right emotions with my emails. Themes of lust and love. Women need to feel like you're a player, but that there is a soft side to you that could potentially fall in love. I banged this one on the second date.