When she hits you up on POF

Even a profile view is a good sign that a girl is interested. Most girls get shit-tons of messages, so you need to set yourself apart from all the other dudes. ESPECIALLY WITH THE CUTE ONES. I almost always go with something off of her profile to tease her about.

If I can't think of anything unique and clever I'll just go with "HEY! Let's get married and start a goat farm." Or something random and silly like that. It's better if you use something from her profile tho. Like if she likes to shoot guns you say, "HEY! You look like a good shot. Let's get married and rob banks like Bonnie&Clyde."

The nice thing about that is, it makes you stick out, goads her to answer, and you have something fun and flirty to message about.

Generally the dudes racking "numbers" online are all using mass openers, and then the girls that respond we start having real conversations with. 

You want to shoot a couple messages back and forth, then get a phone number. Do you have any experience online? 

A super simple opener I've used online with really solid results is simply: "Fuck. Kill. Mary: x, y, z"

Make x, y, and z three SUPER interesting//controversial//famous people

You will get RIDICULOUS responses from girls with this opener.... like it's stupid how much like crack this thing is to girls

^^Not bad. It probably gets a lot of replies but where does that take you? You're not setting yourself up very well with that IMO. Kinda tough to have a flirtatious conversation about the interesting//controversial//famous people.

Fuck. Kill. Marry. 



Biebster, Harry Potter, Louis CK

Oh wow, best message yet. Marry Biebs so he can serenade me all day every day and we can have our own private jet, F Harry Potter cause he knows magic so the sex is bound to be incredible, and unfortunately kill Louis CK because--although he's funny-- he's kind of a Debbie downer. Your turn: Harriet Tubman, Joan of Arc, Celine Dion (lmao...so random..sorry)

Fuck, Kill, Marry 

Biebster, Harry Potter, Louis CK 

Oh my god! Is it weird that I just got really excited to do this? I love these types of questions. Mind you, these are judgement-free answers .. 



Fuck Harry Potter, Marry Louis CK, Kill Bieber. 



Now you .. Miley Cyrus, Hilary Clinton, Mother Teresa.

Fuck, Kill, Marry 



Biebster, Harry Potter, Louis CK 

Oh my god! Well I love biebster so I have to marry him, but louis ck is so funny

and I kinda think he'd be awesome in bed, so fuck him and harry potter got annoying so kill him

Btw- I love NYC what part were you in. I used to live in Washington Heights.

Fuck, Kill, Marry 



Biebster, Harry Potter, Louis CK 

OMG I can't stand those- that's hilarious! Where should I go for the best grilled cheese you're always thinking about?

I mean idk, ithat's just a few of them, but it's usually pretty easy to take them pretty much wherever I want them to go...

But i also go for the meetup very quickly- so I'll do the opener, then one or two other messages and then hit her with the #, and usually something is already pre-seeded at that point.. so I don't need to get into a super in depth convo online

kill marry shag... that's oldshcool lol

haha yeah? 

Regardless- lets help OP out!

Fuck mary kill is great lol. 

Isn't it fuck, marry, kill? That's got a better ring I think. Maybe it's different when read

I've heard it both ways. I always liked kill mary shag, just cuz when you say let's play kill mary shag, it sounds like you're going to kill a girl named mary shag. I'm a wierdo.

haha thats pretty funny - where do you live man, you seem like you know youre shit heh wish I had solid wings here 

I think it sounds stupid. Like something an infinite fag would come up with

I think it sounds stupid. Like something an infinite fag would come up with

Soo I have 54 girls who "like me" on Okcupid.... .Anyone know what  this actually means- just in the sense of, how do you "like" somoen- does that just mean they clicked a button that said they specificslly likd my profile, or they just viewed my profile a certain number of times or what? and how do I see who these girls are without paying for "A-List"

No im new to the online dating thing. I usually game on my college campus, but there are actually some pretty cute girls on POF and OKCupid...so I thought id give it a shot. But yeah, I just went on her profile, found out she is trying to be a nurse and made a roleplay out of that. 

Here is my profile. http://www.okcupid.com/profile/Robesy_?cf=profile

Nice dude. You're a handsome bastard.

"Do not message me if you are a: stripper, bartender, waitress, aspiring actress, SCORPIO, or if you have implants. It never works...."

So... pretty much, no hot girls? Those are all jobs that hot girls do. Sound's pretty harsh and judgemental.  Just sayin. A friend of mine is a bartender, does acting as a hobby, and is a paralegal studying to be a lawyer. Super badass chick.

LOL

I kindda thought that was the funniest and best part of his entire profile : /

That's not even original.

bravo, styles wing, made that up. Probably decent for a place like LA but sounds pretty discriminatory to your average girl.

I'd just field-test and see if towkrs. if not, switch it up... no point in guessin

yeah i got that from bravo's online dating video I found. 

So what would you guys use for that paticular section on "Message me if"? I get a lot of views from the girls I send a message to, but they usually dont respond to my original message. I have been trying one I found on here for about 2 weeks. "Hey. Youre cute...and im not a douche. Message me ;)"   The only thing I dont like about that one is that it puts the pressure on her to get the ball rolling. But like you all said, its experimentation.

No offense to Bravo, he's a buddy of mine and a a genuine great guy.. but I'd been successful online for over ten years, I let him change up my profile.. completely buggered my results I haven't recovered since lol 

I had the stripper/fake tits/scorpio/bartender thing up on mine for awhile, don't remember anything good, do remember at least a couple girls saying things like "sorry it wouldn't work out I'm a bartender" lol. I don't think I was ever able to successfully turn any of these into meetups.

In that "message me" part, I just have something super simple: "You're lookin to meet someone new, grab a drink and see where it goes"...

My profile isn't really that funny though- but I get like an absolute TONNNN of hits- I've done profiles in the past, but the one I have now is BY FAR the best I've ever had, and it's also the most "normal" profile I've ever creaated

lol like normally I wouldn't show my shit because I wouldn't want guys to "steal" my stuff.... but there's literally nothing to steal from mine this time around haha

... can't fully explain the difference in results.... except for when I've shown a few girl friends my profile they all have said they'd meetup with me and that it was a really "good" profile"

decided against this lol

Link me your shit mang, I want to peer at it.

Had a discussion with manwhore about my profile. 

He thinks my shit is pretty wild- which at first I actually didn't see but when he explained it and broke it down a little- I would agree.... I don't know if it's CRAZY....but what I will say is that, while I may claim to have been going for a "normal" profile... if I'm being 100% honest, I'll break down the thought process behind making my profile:

I wanted to create a characture of myself while remaining real- I wanted to be "cocky" with that "vulnerable side"- the guy that girls are intrigued by- the "sensitive bro"- but I still think it's a pretty "normal" profile, as far as profiles are concerned

So I intermix some absolutely ridiculous shit with a lot of grounding material- like right as i'm about to cross the line of too over the top, I come right back with something that humbles me and makes me "real"- and I do it all in a way that is very "casual"... like nobody would read my profile and be like, 'wow this is try-hard"

Not saying I executed this perfectly.... but that was the game-plan

Oh and my pictures are pretty solid.... completely help with the "sensitive bro" image

Also- the more, legitimate details you put in your profile about stuff you like.... the more excuses you are giving girls to hit you up

same exact thing happened to me lol. Maybe Bravo was trying to weed out competition lol 

PM me your profile. I wanna have a look as well. 

Also, what area you live in? Texas sucks for online game. I swear, 65% of the girls on these sites are looking for a country guy/gentleman LOL. there hobbies often include mudding, hunting, etc.  

1st girl (on POF): Hey ;)

Me: Hey beb, just got done checking your profile. Are you really into nursing? I could totally use one :p. haha.

1st girl: Hahaha yes! How ever I am a waitress. But it looks good because doctors like waitresses because they are kinda alike hahah. And its at a fancy breakfast restaurant haha

Me: Where do you work at? I might want to stalk you :) jk.

1st girl: A place called j Christopher's

Me: So basically your anything a guy could want. Lets just go to Paris, get married, and live on a private island ;)

1st girl: Hahah okay! I'm off this weekend :)

Me: (just now) Send me a text beb, we got some planning to do :) XXX-XXX-XXXX.

Note: Im taking her saying she is off this weekend as a sign she wants to hangout so im going for that this weekend. The only thing I have a problem with is she lives like an hour and a half away from where I live. How would yall deal with the logistics to set this up...I mean she obviously wants to hang out, I am just more used to local girls who live like 20 minutes away and I dont know how I should go about it.

2nd girl (on OKCupid)

Girl: Hey

Me: Only a 38% match. We probably will fight all the time...and ill win :)

Girl: Hah you can't believe that. I mean it's quite obvious that I'd win. ;)

Me: Oh really, is that a threat ;p. haha

Girl: Its a promise ;)

Me: I had a feeling you would say that. I guess this isnt going to end well. Its ok though...I like getting into trouble :)

Girl: I suppose it depends on your definition of ending well

Me: K well this Okc stuff is way too nerdy for me shoot me your num or text me. 678 643 8357. I promise I'll only stalk you on Tuesdays ;b

Same thing goes for this girl. She lives about an hour away from where I live. So again, I was wondering how you all go about setting up logistics?

Those were both really well done, in my opinion. You didn't fuck around. Good job.

Are you just looking to hook up once or twice here or no?

That first one is 50/50. Generally I do the # thing after something real.. not a paris/private island type of deal. "Ok but the island stays in my name when we break up. Text me 502 871 ballsac. Be good" 

Who's coming with me when I trace his phone number and sneak into his room when he's sleeping and jack off in a corner.

Yeah, I realized that...but i dont know how to change it.

But yeah, im still having trouble setting up those logistics (hour and a half away from my location). The one on POF has texted me back. I still have to plan something for this weekend, so should I get her to drive down here, me go out there (i really dont want to), or meet halfway (only thing that worries me about this is I wont have a pull location.)

And to answer you Infinity...just to hookup for this paticular situation. Ive made a rule for myself since I go to community college and sometimes girls can live pretty far away. If she doesnt live within 30 minutes of where I live, just to hookup. I dont want a girlfriend of FB who I have to drive an hour and a half to see.

Robest- can you not edit your own past posts? I can't either..

Manwhore says he fixed it but I think he's up to something super secret and super scary- whatcha think?

Knowing manwhore, thats probably what it is...

Yeah- probably an alien conspirarcy - he always seemed just slightly TOO good at this shit, anyway... hmmmm

I swear to gawd you guys should be able to edit your posts. I'll check again.. 

Ok I added a couple permissions but I looked I already added the right one. I think it's a browser caching issue, e.g. "pilot error".