Why do people go for a "Number" on Tinder?

Compliance, for one. I would think

Hmm, okay, yeah  I can see that. 

So, something I've done like literally jjust once (so it's def. not tested or anything), is that I've actually gotten the #, and then continued to just tinder the girl without ever texting her.... it actually fucked with her head a lil, which I wasn't expecting...

As it stands, I'm new to the Tinder scene, but I kinda just don't go for the # and I haven't noticed any compliance issues... Will see how it plays out

That actually got me thinking....

Do "normal" guys, just like naturally understand the idea of a compliance ladder without thinking about it, and so that natural understanding informs their decision to go for the #

Or do you think most guys go for it simply because it's a habit

You want that number. Especially because it's a lot easier for the girl to text you than tinder you. Having hundreds of matches, new ones coming in every minute and people messaging you popping up on your tinder.

Of course you want to bring it to text. And then when you have it on text, it makes it more natural to push forward to logistics.  

Hmm, interesting. 

Have you tried it without getting the #?

Ugh, yeah, the organization part of it is annoying. That's the main issue I've seen is that girls I've set shit up for, are now so far down in the list of all my matches, that I have to like actively be remembering them, as opposed to shit being popped up to the top

But iono getting the # seems a lil bit like it might be an unnecessary extra step... or maybe the # is important, but it can sorta be an afterthough after everything is set. 

haha I'm also probably being stubborn about this cause Im stuck in my ways, and not getting the # is what I started out doing. 

Well sometimes I make plans with them first and then get the number....

But if they're not down to give you their number, then they aren't going to meet up with you.. So you should move on. 

If I go out on a date with a girl from tinder and she asks if I've done this before... HAH! 

I tell them are you serious? I'm a professioanl tinder consultant 

I think this is a valid discussion I'd never really thought about it. I've def gotten a girl's number and still continued to pof her, that was funny. I think I ended up banging two different girls after doing it, but I wasn't doing it as a "thing", ya know

Mw teach me the ways of the Jedi force

I think one valid point made is sending a girl a tender message is just going to get lost in the sauce of inbound messages. Yours could be stewing in her box for awhile before she even knows it's there. 

Yeah, I agree. That was the main thing that I automatically was on-board with. 

Also, I think that specifically with Tinder, it makes more sense to not go for the # than with other dating sites. 

One reason I have for not going for the # is just that it's so habitual and like kinda engrained in people's head as like the typical thing that guys do. So, for example, you're goin back and forth with a chick and you go for the #..... yes, I hear you, in that it's def. part of a compliance ladder, but I think because of how prevelent the idea of "getting a girls number" is in today's society, there is also the chance that you're going to unnecessarily trigger some alarm bells, if in the middle of your text game you go to grab digits. 

On the otherhand- you go straight for the meetup, and it flows with the vibe you and her are creating, and you don't even go for the #- maybe there's something to the fact that you're skipping over the # step, and possible are reducing the chances of a "asd" type response to "getting the digits"