worst feeling ever
Sun, 07/22/2012 - 08:57
Having a girl isolated, then not going in for the makeout bc your unsure and then. Getting buthuet and not talking to her and then seeing her leave with another dude ... like fuck this... never again.
And she's the hottest girl in the bar.... bailing bc of insecurities ... GEESUS.
LESSON FUCKING LEARNED. NEVER AGAIN. I legit mean that.
And she's the hottest girl in the bar.... bailing bc of insecurities ... GEESUS.
LESSON FUCKING LEARNED. NEVER AGAIN. I legit mean that.
Sun, 07/22/2012 - 10:18
#1
Re: worst feeling ever
@buddhagames:
Awesome lesson dude. I hope next time you bang her.
When I was a newbie I got totally destroyed by my onietis
Awesome lesson dude. I hope next time you bang her.
When I was a newbie I got totally destroyed by my onietis
Sun, 07/22/2012 - 09:45
#2
Re: worst feeling ever
@sentry303:
Fuccckk. I know that feel. Happen last fall to me. I didn't do it. Then I was in another set and see her walking away alone with another dudes arm around her. INSTANT state drop after an amazing night. The look on my face was priceless. Some guy I was in a group with was mid story and he stopped to turn me back towards him, gave me a knowing nod of sympathy, then carried on.
Then even when they came back I tried to run game on her but it was coming off soo needy I'm sure. Reaction seeking. It is actually a horrible horrible feeling.
Fuccckk. I know that feel. Happen last fall to me. I didn't do it. Then I was in another set and see her walking away alone with another dudes arm around her. INSTANT state drop after an amazing night. The look on my face was priceless. Some guy I was in a group with was mid story and he stopped to turn me back towards him, gave me a knowing nod of sympathy, then carried on.
Then even when they came back I tried to run game on her but it was coming off soo needy I'm sure. Reaction seeking. It is actually a horrible horrible feeling.
Sun, 07/22/2012 - 10:31
#3
Re: worst feeling ever
@icewahine:
yeah... you see, it's not the fact that I didn't get hte girl that bothers me...
You see- one thing I've realizes, even in just my short time in this game, is that there is a certain amount of LUCK to this shit...
Just in the sense that, you're always putting your best foot forward. You're always stepping to the girls you want to step to. You're always hitting it hard with fundamentals. But you can go through ALL the motions... and still have NOTHING click... and it's nothing to do with you... it's just the law of averages.
The only thing you can do, just like in poker or any other game which COMBINES luck and skill, is to make as many CORRECT plays as you can and then let the cards fall as they will.... If you make the CORRECT play and STILL LOSE... that's okay... because you made the right play, it just wasn't going to happen.
So the only part of this that bothered me is that I let my emotions/state dictate my actions. I let HER reactions to my actions, dictate how I interpreted the interaction. I was looking to HER to see if it was the "right" time to go in for a makeout... And then when I didn't see what I wanted... I literally just GAVE THE FUCK UP... and that isn't who I am
That's the lesson I learned today, that's where the pain is coming from... It's coming from that place of knowing that I could have just stuck in set for the rest of the night and it would have landed eventually... I just.... gave up...
yeah... you see, it's not the fact that I didn't get hte girl that bothers me...
You see- one thing I've realizes, even in just my short time in this game, is that there is a certain amount of LUCK to this shit...
Just in the sense that, you're always putting your best foot forward. You're always stepping to the girls you want to step to. You're always hitting it hard with fundamentals. But you can go through ALL the motions... and still have NOTHING click... and it's nothing to do with you... it's just the law of averages.
The only thing you can do, just like in poker or any other game which COMBINES luck and skill, is to make as many CORRECT plays as you can and then let the cards fall as they will.... If you make the CORRECT play and STILL LOSE... that's okay... because you made the right play, it just wasn't going to happen.
So the only part of this that bothered me is that I let my emotions/state dictate my actions. I let HER reactions to my actions, dictate how I interpreted the interaction. I was looking to HER to see if it was the "right" time to go in for a makeout... And then when I didn't see what I wanted... I literally just GAVE THE FUCK UP... and that isn't who I am
That's the lesson I learned today, that's where the pain is coming from... It's coming from that place of knowing that I could have just stuck in set for the rest of the night and it would have landed eventually... I just.... gave up...
Sun, 07/22/2012 - 10:45
#4
Re: worst feeling ever
@buddhagames:
I find myself doing this too. You're 'trying' to build up tension by not going for the makeout but you're actually taking too long...if the girl swoops her head in to yours - like really grazes her face against yours with her lips lightly touching yours, THEN GOOOO take it, that's the green light. In fact, i've seen Jeffy force makeouts out of thin air in his hotseat.
If you're not gonna take the chance she'll either feel rejected or think you're a dickless chode - best thing to do is call this out and say "umm. I don't wanna be the tacky club makeout dude, i actually care about you." dunno, this is what i've been doing lately even when i BADLY wanna snog the face off of a hottie grinding on my enchilada.
About 'hitting sets hard' i really love what Julien said in his recent 30 min video about seeking the extremes. The dude threw red bull on a girl as an opener and recovered. I kinda wanna push my comfort zone when i approach now - it's soooo good for emotional intuition when you have to think of a quick tactic to mollify the girl.
I find myself doing this too. You're 'trying' to build up tension by not going for the makeout but you're actually taking too long...if the girl swoops her head in to yours - like really grazes her face against yours with her lips lightly touching yours, THEN GOOOO take it, that's the green light. In fact, i've seen Jeffy force makeouts out of thin air in his hotseat.
If you're not gonna take the chance she'll either feel rejected or think you're a dickless chode - best thing to do is call this out and say "umm. I don't wanna be the tacky club makeout dude, i actually care about you." dunno, this is what i've been doing lately even when i BADLY wanna snog the face off of a hottie grinding on my enchilada.
About 'hitting sets hard' i really love what Julien said in his recent 30 min video about seeking the extremes. The dude threw red bull on a girl as an opener and recovered. I kinda wanna push my comfort zone when i approach now - it's soooo good for emotional intuition when you have to think of a quick tactic to mollify the girl.
Sun, 07/22/2012 - 13:15
#5
Re: worst feeling ever
@Gogo:
That's one thing I've been learning to do recently - force the makeout.
Jeffy talks about it, julien talks about it - like just shoving your face into hers and she'll accept it. Usually I glance down and the lips and see if she'll do the same or just slow down and stare at her until she gets turned on too. But some girls just keep talking and talking (especially if your making them nervous) or they won't give you anything to go off of, no IOI or kiss me sign, but when I just go for it, it usually works.
I forgot where I read it but if your thinking about whether you should be kissing her or not, you should've already kissed her.
Yeah BG. It's like if you did everything you could to get that girl and it doesn't work and then she goes of with another dude your happy for them haha. But when you didn't step up and you see someone else do so and succeed, it's not even jealousy, a little piece of your inside is disgusted with you so much, it just willpowers itself dead
That's one thing I've been learning to do recently - force the makeout.
Jeffy talks about it, julien talks about it - like just shoving your face into hers and she'll accept it. Usually I glance down and the lips and see if she'll do the same or just slow down and stare at her until she gets turned on too. But some girls just keep talking and talking (especially if your making them nervous) or they won't give you anything to go off of, no IOI or kiss me sign, but when I just go for it, it usually works.
I forgot where I read it but if your thinking about whether you should be kissing her or not, you should've already kissed her.
Yeah BG. It's like if you did everything you could to get that girl and it doesn't work and then she goes of with another dude your happy for them haha. But when you didn't step up and you see someone else do so and succeed, it's not even jealousy, a little piece of your inside is disgusted with you so much, it just willpowers itself dead
Sun, 07/22/2012 - 23:16
#6
Re: worst feeling ever
@icewahine:
one thing i wanna work on is more make outs in the club. As for the oneitis thing... i remember a couple years back getting invited over to a hotties flat after a night out (even tho we were at separate venues) then i was a pussy little bitch and talked to her the whole night instead of railing her. girl was in short shorts and her nipples were saying hello through her tee...
next week i see her making out with another dude at the club.
NEVER AGAIN :)
@gogo did you attend jeffy ho tseat last autumn in london too? that shit was intense haha, also where is this julien vid talking about the red bull thing that sounds crazzyyy!
one thing i wanna work on is more make outs in the club. As for the oneitis thing... i remember a couple years back getting invited over to a hotties flat after a night out (even tho we were at separate venues) then i was a pussy little bitch and talked to her the whole night instead of railing her. girl was in short shorts and her nipples were saying hello through her tee...
next week i see her making out with another dude at the club.
NEVER AGAIN :)
@gogo did you attend jeffy ho tseat last autumn in london too? that shit was intense haha, also where is this julien vid talking about the red bull thing that sounds crazzyyy!
Sun, 07/22/2012 - 23:29
#7
Re: worst feeling ever
@kris:
Yeah, Jeffy is hilarious man. I was helping out at Julien's as well, like patting people down and turning off the lights - the important shit ;)
IF you reallyyy wanna actively go for makeouts there's a little funny technique Papa used to use back in the day which got him makeout after makeout just by doing it - check out the 100% spin kiss, it's not always easy to pull off but it's funny as fuck when it fails.
Yeah, Jeffy is hilarious man. I was helping out at Julien's as well, like patting people down and turning off the lights - the important shit ;)
IF you reallyyy wanna actively go for makeouts there's a little funny technique Papa used to use back in the day which got him makeout after makeout just by doing it - check out the 100% spin kiss, it's not always easy to pull off but it's funny as fuck when it fails.