You can become an amazing manipulator or an AMAZING man

There is a dichotomy from which all human action stems. You can do something out of fear OR you can do something for love.

Something MW always says is resonating very deeply within my psyche recently. You can become an amazing manipulator or an amazing man. I'm seeing my ex again, however we are not officially together...suddenly all the obligations and expectations I had placed on her in the initial relationship are absent in my head. There is no logical contractual agreement anymore. Nothing bonding us together other than our actual emotinal connection. This is making me face my ego and revisit any socially conditioned paradigms I had in the relatonship.

She went on vacay for a week and I'm sure she'll get with another dude. I have no right to complain though, I just got laid with a different chick 3 days ago. Knowing this and facing my ego (I got quite jealous and possesive) something occured to me.

She has limited time here on earth as do I. If I want her to pick me over another guy, if I want her to invest her time into me I better provide a better experience than anything else she can get.

I want her to choose me but I want her to WANT to choose me. And if someone can legitimately make her happier by providing better experiences I want her to choose that because I love her and her happiness is more important than her staying with me. Which also means that my happiness is not contingent on her staying with me. Abundance.

No girl owes you anything. Nobody owes you anything. HOWEVER it IS your responsibility as someone who is aware, as someone who is cognizant enough to see the value in this site to become a top level producer. You owe that to yourself.

She's been chasing me for a relationship the past month however. I'm also out here actively looking for something else. I want to make sure that I want her. When I know I'm delivering on this level my standards also increase. The girl better be on point if I'm bringing all this to the table.  

Forget "game" in so far as  tactics. Step your shit up. Become more charismatic. Provide better experiences. Lead. Be a gawwdamn man. That is game. It's about what you can give.

I believe only in this way. Only when a relationship is founded on this paradigm can it be truly fulfilling and withstand anything. Only in this way does it have a chance of becoming an interdependant relationship.

I think when monogamy naturally happens. There has to be a level of recognition and guidance from both people. A communication between two parties that want to preserve something good and thus help each other reiterate and course correct so that the other party is consistently the best experience provider.