MW, how do you start kinky stuff in bed?

Make her like the kinky shit? Lol they already like the kinky shit and want it badly. Not even sure what you're asking. How do you do it? You just do it. Bend her over and spank her ass, ask if she likes being called dirty names and if she does then call her whatever you want, ask if she likes it soft or hard, tell her what to do, tell her to get on her knees, tell her how you want your cock sucked, you're the porn director, tell her or just put her in whatever position you want, choke her while you fuck her missionary, pull her hair when fucking her from behind, be in charge of things. She'll let you know right away what she likes and what she doesn't.

Do what you want from the very start. You should be excited and passionate about what you like and not scared or stifled or thinking that you have to make the girl like these kinds of things. The vast majority of girls want to be fucked good and hard. Every girl will like different things and will have certain boundaries and limits so you just have to respect that.

If you're trying to convince a girl to do something that you like that she resists but you think she might be open to it then you can sometimes get her on board by getting really excited about it, talk about how much you love it, how hot it is, how it 'makes it sexier'. Lead emotionally and get her turned on by the idea of it. Then see how she reacts. : )

What's your physical/sexual escalation on a girl like? It should be a direct extension of that. Are you dominant? Sensual? Giving? What are you into.

Read this article tell us what you think:

http://manwhore.org/sex/

Thanks for the article, it was helpful!

I think I'm more closer to the Healer you describe, I'm used to explore her body. But I don't like it as much as before, that's why I want to try those more dominant and stimulating things.

I still like being caressing and empathetic, cause it's my natural attitude, but I want to introduce a 50% dominant/pornstar and a 50% Healer in my sex session. It's become a very strong fantasy of mine.

My escalation is usually like this:

I am the one who turns her on, and I always start with massaging and teasing. I keep myself away from her erogenous zones at the beginning, and slowly reach the pussy. Usually this turns them on a lot and make them feel teased. But somehow I can't link this escalation to the kinky stuff I want to try.

Then i finger her a bit and lick her, usually making her want me because I tease and leave some empty times without stimulation, and they usually start to ask me to fuck them. I usually keep on having sex after I come and I like to give her orgasms while I'm recharging. Usually long sessions. My vibe is usually keeping the tension by not talking and by looking in their eyes intensely.

In general the sex is passionate and empathetic, it's not boring per se, cause they seem happy with the fact that it's so intimate and they always want to blow me or caress me from a genuine desire to make me feel good. But maybe I'm too loving... When I try to introduce that hardcore shit they start worrying that I don't care about them anymore, because my usual approach to sex is very loverish and passionate (in fact they tend to fall in love with me, even this fuckbuddy I'm seeing starts to be more "intimate").

The reality is that I LIKE being loving and passionate, it's in my personality. But I also have a dominant side that I fantasize a lot about, and I FEEL the need to bring it out.

It's become such a strong fantasy that I want to try that.

So yeah you're a 70's flower child permission boy. That's halfway to being gay ;)

Look up "prize kino" and "high value masculine sexual escalation" 

Lol. ok dude, I'll fix that.

I can't find the first concept, prize kino.

Is it in this forum?

Yes, lol. Were you able to find the other one? I'd be curious to see what you found

I found your LMR series, which I'm reading, and an episode of your podcast talking about sexual escalation.

But I can't find your material about prize kino.

If you remember the page, please post it here.

Thanks!

Naw it's part of my training program I haven't really written much on it

Hey electric eye, it's mentioned here: http://manwhore.org/forum/content/dealing-lmr-thoughts-appreciated

It boggles my mind that a girl wouldn't be down for doggy style.  Every single girl I've banged has been down for it. 

I'm not a super dominant guy but I 100% slap that ass, pull on her hair, and usually ill gently put my hand around her neck once I start banging.... and if she's cool with that then I'll choke her a bit.  

All that shit is elementary.  And I'm tame in comparison to manwhore or any of these other dudes on here who have amazing escalation skills.  

I've got a couple new articles on sex coming out.. holy moly. 

I'm actually dating someone now who matches me. Our energy is crazy, my outpourings right now are amazeballs. 

The way I've always done this is through both strong physical escalation and by gaining a lot of investment and compliance leading up to sex.

At the beginning of the interaction, like the start. I'll slowly start working things in through verbal means, or text if the convo starts on the phone. Then I'm straight up physical off the bat when we meet and I'm dominant the whole night through. From just walking and choosing a direction to go, to even picking a drink at the bar. It makes a world of a difference I've noticed.

I've also tried this with bare minimum compliance and investment and it was a no-go. I think that the strong spike in investment on her part and a lot of compliance is your golden ticket.