Text impass

her: sounds like a midlife crisis and I get to be on the to do list

I think that text was BS. I think you would've been justified getting a little pissed about that

Walk away from it man. Those girls with "anxiety disorders" are trouble. That's my advice.

Ok holmes this one deserves a bit of a more complicated breakdown. But in a nutshell what happened is you displayed emotional "vulnerability" in the wrong ways. 

There's something strange to a girl about a guy that "admits" to living on an emotional roller coaster. It's a very feminine thing. I don't think you realized what you were doing. 

"I feel amazing and totally positive! Killing it at work, finding time to study.." you're starting to border on WAY too much. But then you go with "enough about them I'll only get upset again, then I'll be eating 5htps like m&ms". Decidedly feminine 

Then out of the blue you go into figuring out her schedule.. and then just kill it with the "even if its just for tea or something". Not only did you try to excuse/justify your interest, you also forgot to include an apostrophe. 

Just met with a girl from pof, yanked her home and was fucking her within an hour of meeting her lol. 

Ok interesting. Too feminine. My thoughts with this girl was to tone down the masculinity because when I see her in person I'm completely dominant and owning her body. I felt it was the reason she's been reluctant to meet with me. Like she knows she's going to get fucked good and hard if she agrees to meet up with me so I guess my mind in its infinite wisdom decided to make myself vulnerable thinking it would put her fear and anxiety at ease.

any salvaging this?

And you're right. I didn't realize what I was doing, I see it now. Even without the exclamation mark it would have been way better. It seems punctuation might be part of the problem lol

Wow. You're fucking right. Gawdamn, texting is a tight game. 

So.. No fix?

I'd like to fuck this girl, and I think it's fair to say she wants it. When I see her in person she knows who the boss is. It seems a shame to let that fizzle out over some shitty punctuation

Oh.

Ugh even your takeaways are weak as fuck

Well I'm not looking for a fixer, and I don't see you as one either. Don't mind the fact I tell you stuff I just like to do it. It's all on lock no need to worry beautiful girl

That last sentence could probably be tweaked but I'm on my motorcycle on the roof of bellagio I need to get to work..

Lol I miss this

The lesson wasn't lost on me. In fact text you recommended hit me like a punch in the chest. I had no idea how bad this was until you pointed it out lol. Thanks for the feedback and for shooting me straight (as always).

Me 11am: Well I'm not looking for a fixer, and I don't see you as one either. Don't mind the fact that I tell you stuff I just like to do it. It's all handled, no need to worry gorgeous

her 4:20: Awesome. How was jam night? Did you adopt an instrument also in your quest for knowledge and power?

Open to any feedback, its clear I've been shitting the bed thus far

Oh yeah I got some stellar bandcamp stories. Ones to make you blush

LOL! I had zero hope for this one Jack. But Manwhore's just saved you with that. That's awesome!

me 5pm: oh yeah I got some stellar bandcamp stories. Ones to make you blush

her 7:45: its true I'm easy to excite ;)
her: who doesn't love a good story?!

I initially was trying to make plans to get this girl over to my house. She seemed receptive for awhile and it felt like we were close to making plans. Now I'm rethinking the meetup, I'm thinking meeting her in town to play pool? Guessing its time to start drawing a line towards the meet. Maybe a feeler like 

make me a nice sandwich and I might tell you a couple ;)

?

If you can beat me at a game of pool maybe I'll tell you a couple;) 

One time I had a duet with a percussionist girl so I took her to the beach for the a private practice session. I was just pounding away and she told me to stop because she couldn't feel her legs 'cuz she'd been sitting in a weird position for so long. 

Lol. I wouldn't send that I was just exploring possibilities. 

Don't make it such an obvious ploy but yes you're right ,now you want to set something up. 

"I have damn good stories. Sometimes I make them up on the spot and people don't know 'cuz.. well, most people are retarded. So are you coming over or what 'cuz my fingers are starting to cramp" 

One time on mushrooms I taught a turtle how to play the flute. I figured out that I could leave him in my cabin and everyone would think I was practicing while I snuck into the woods with the strings section girls

I'll roll with yours tomorrow lol

Me: I have damn good stories. Sometimes I make them up on the spot and people don't know 'cuz.. well, most people are retarded. So are you coming over or what 'cuz my fingers are starting to cramp

her: Not coming over.finger strength is a really nice asset. Just saying

her: RetarTed.very PC

Double post

I feel like there's a theme underlining all this. This might be obvious to some of you but I guess I'm really becoming clear on it now. I see her, grab her, I've pulled her tits out at parties, kissed her, double make out with her and her friend etc. this is all great but there's been no real push. She has been basically topped up with validation since the beginning. Funny to notice that right at the exact moment MW takes over the texts she immediately starts throwing in subtle little flirts and sexual teases. Ie. "easily excited;)" or "finger strength is a nice asset" like she's fishing to get me to chase again.

Just for laughs and science.. What if I tried a tease and a push

PC strength is a really nice asset, also you might be a bit too high strung. Just saying

You should check out my PC strength ;) 

you're too high strung anyway, we'd never get along

This girl needs a strong push. Strip her validation away leave her breathless and feeling on the outside looking in 

You should check out my PC strength ;)

Too bad you won't get a chance.I like a strong, feminine, independent girl who knows what she wants. You're a child

too strong? Reactive? Lose the last line?

It's too obvious. It would be seen as reactive/butthurt. Something more subtle yet severe. 

You should check out my PC strength..

.. but I like a girl who is strong, sexy and knows what she wants ;)

I like the PC line if you hadn't noticed lol. Am I getting warmer?

Give me some info on this girl. You do one chemical stripping of this girl she'll be back in your arms begging for it next time you see her. 

I've been running into her at parties over the last year or so. Into fitness, hard body, I'd give her a hard 9. She was in the picture a little when you and i were working together but she gave my girl the 'no' feeling so we moved on at the time. I kept her number. 

Also, almost every time I see her she's with this bitch friend of hers, she seems to rely on this girl a bit socially.

Right. Sensitive area here 

Yeah, it's a shame. I do really like her and don't at all want to fuck with her in a way that's hurtful. I just wish I could get through this barrier between us and have a real interaction. The only times I ever see her its a party or a club

So what did you send her.

and I don't think there's an issue with pushing these girls hard because at the end of the day, you should leave her better than you found her. 

Too bad you'll never get to experience my PC strength. 

Just don't see this going anywhere

its almost like, well never mind...

in rapid succession. #DRAMA lol

My PC strength is a really nice asset

And I wouldn't say you're retarted, just differently abled

quote=Manwhore]Yeah I would send it. Either it will force her to open up because youv'e rightfully stripped her of feminine validation (in cases like this it's ok), or she will just find somewhere to curl up into a ball and die. Either one would be fine

Just wondering what determines whether to go Don Juan or Don Quixote

Just wondering what determines whether to go Don Juan or Don Quixote

I'm making a joke of it but its actually a serious question.  My thoughts on impass girl was that if I could swipe the validation in a quick clean move it would actually bring peace to the interaction and ultimately make the girl more comfortable. I'm not trying to be a sociopath here, in the end I want what's best for the girl. I'd say I have a near perfect record with the girls I've been with (them feeling good about it afterwards.) thoughts here?

I don't know if I elaborated to this before but I see nothing wrong with acting like a dick or being a slight asshole, if you truly know you can make the girl glad she came out to meet you later.

There's nothing sociopathic about setting things right. Especially if you've unknowingly made mistakes like you did. Only reason I stopped responding to this is 'cuz you were off doing your own thing with it, which is fine you obviously have to start doing that.. but as sensitive as this is, I was just waiting for the dust to settle.

K good. I thought for a second you thought I had full blown aids. 

I've got a lot going on. Single again, off booze, smoking, caffeine, sugar (any stimulants). Snowboarding, working, studying/reading, at the gym like a rhino. Daily meditation to stay grounded. Basically a strict healthy diet and good habits only.

the net result is I obviously have a lot of energy to channel lol. It can be a lot to handle. I'm guessing after a couple of weeks adjustment I'll be fully grounded in the new routine

Yeah it's crazy how much a lot of what we take into our body is designed to pacify ourselves. 

me: my PC strength is a really nice asset

me: and I wouldn't say you're retarted. just differently abled