Hey! Ask me your text game questions, and post up your convos.. I'm HERE TO HELP!
Your texting is actually pretty good except you're getting WAY TOO SEXUAL. Just get the meetup and then escalate during the date. You're making it way too difficult for her to meet up with you because you're putting all these sexual expectations on her and you're making her nervous. Chill out on that stuff and just get the meetup. Then introduce her to your cock
Too sexual? Oh, well. Do you have examples what would be appropriate? (not for her, in general)
And how would I get the meet up, if she again "doesn't have money"?
Lol not bad at all. But yeah, getting too sexual over text is self sabotage at times. Girls might start identifying with being a "slut" before even going out with you which is bad and they can second guess it and flake. Getting really sexual is good for if you're going for broke. i.e. if the girl or yourself is on vacation or leaving town soon. Just craft a meetup.
"What days are you free this week"
EDIT: Banter a little more back and forth if you stopped texting. Don't hit her with logistics out of the blue. Warm her up to it first...
Ok, thanks!
But is this "asking her out" not a no-go in text game?
(I am not familiar with your expert opinions yet^^)
Well, if you never get her out with you, you're just a pen pal......so.....
Sorry, sure you are right. First reading I've misunderstood your comment
Okay, and I wouldn't claim to be an expert. There's a lot of variables here but the best thing to do is up your game in person so you have more room for error during texting.
Well, one of the variables is, that she's in a relationship since yesterday. Could have been one (part-) cause ror the resistance. Well, NEXT
Ok, thanks!But is this "asking her out" not a no-go in text game?
(I am not familiar with your expert opinions yet^^)
Tow you can always take her out to a movie yourself if you want. I pay for most of a date with a girl usually. I'll make her pay for something small. It depends tho 'cuz a lot of people are doing the dutch treat thing now and it's working pretty consistently.
As far as "asking her out", yes it's a no in text game only because.. you're not supposed to "ask her out". That's stupid and awkward. It's part of the old skool traditional style of dating and it doesn't work now that women aren't second class citizens. The reason why it's a no-no these days is because when you "ask a girl out" you're asking her to invest more than you actually deserve. Because saying yes to going out with a guy back in the day had a lot of repercussions. A girl was basically giving a guy permission to "court" her and a lot of her choice and decision-making abilities then went out of the door. I'm sure that's about as clear as mud but I don't have time to leave a more detailed explanation.
Nowadays you want to seed a fun meetup adventure and tell her to come along or you'll stab her and eat her dog. That's the modern way
"Nowadays you want to seed a fun meetup adventure and tell her to come along or you'll stab her and eat her dog. That's the modern way"
:D Yeah, that's something I did very early and gave me the most meet ups. Of course not the exact expressions xD
I'll post a few convos and honestly I don't get this chick ....she is 23 i am 29
saying I have a few friends over at the new place and asked if she was partying.. she replys next morning
I'll call her X in this conversation :
x : looks like you were having a party ;) Are you alive today ? naaw no partying for me.
i: naaw ... I am retired nowadays and need to lie down and be fed with grapes for the rest of my life
i : even thought I am a walking zombie today, the feeling of waking up in this new place is amazing I think you would have loved how the renovation turned out
and I bet you have plenty of cool ideas for the interior design
x : oh that is so fun! so everything is done I suppose ? maybe its time that we see eachother :)
i: sure thing ;) you work near here anyways. drop by and and join me for a meal of something nice and stimulating when you feel for some excitement ;P
x : even if I really want to eat *name of a dish she loves* ?
i: especially then ...but only if you impress me with your ...erhm..."healthy" dessert :p (she made some dessert that she claimed to be healthy and I teased her about it a while back)
x : she sends a photo of a healthy green smoothie she made
x : this makes you go wooow !!
i : what kind of crazy experiment have you been doing frankenstein :p I believe you when I taste it.
x : green is good for the body and soul ;)
a few other more examples :
I tell her that I am going to celebreate my birthday on a weekend trip to berlin and we talk a little about that and the day of the flight she send me a text saying
x : have fun in berlin craaaazy !! kisses !
then she really wants to know how the nightlife was and what I've been up to.
x : she sends me a pic of her eating a sandwich ... below it says .. soooooooooooooo gooooood !!
I: keep teasing me like that and I'll have to come over and do something illegal :P
x : what are you up to ?
I : I am listening to music and thinking about the things I need to get for this place ! Come on over for some food and give me your opinion on what to get. Will seven or eight be best ?
x : how fun !!! Do you have any idea of how you want it to be ? Sunday = familyday at the parents ;) the highlight of the week.
I dont reply until a few hours later that evening
i : yeah well .. I was too much of a time optimist and you would probably have died of hunger if you came by because I am just about to eat ...
x : I bet I would ! haha
another conversation :
x : she sends a photo of herself infront of a mirror dressed up and below it says : "mischief thursday ..."
i : classy ..but I don't believe you ;)
x : how about the pool ?
x : to party in ?
i : it depends on the company ;)
x : how about barcelona ? (she is probably trying to tell me that she is in barcelona partying or something to impress me.. but I don't even acknowledge it )
i : then forget the pool, ocean is the way to go ... afterparty ;)
x : she sends another photo of her and a friend ( girl ) out having a drink (wine )
i : as I said .. classy ;) however I want to see tequila shots ! Have fun ;)
a few days later she sends a text
x : I want to buy a car
x : just kidding, I am buying a handbag
x : she sends two photos of her holding a bag in her hand (she sent me a photo of this bag a while back with the price tag on .. it was expensive probably trying to impress me? )
I don't respond but send her a reply a few hours later near the evening
i : what are the plans for tonight miss... date with your handbag ?
x : she replies next morning very early (saturday 8 am )
x : I was at * name of mall * played some games I was like a child it was fun ! and then to the movie. What did you do ? ;)
I replied afew hours later when I woke up (I had a girl over last night ) so I replied with :
i : sounds like fun ;) Which movie did you see ? I haven't been to the movies in a long time, naaw just chilled at my place and played some board games and had some wine. (implying I had company )
no reply ..
A few days later I send her a text :
i : first time I see a realtor have her orgasm haha ..the broker that sold me this apartement just came by to re-evaluate it ..so fun to see her reaction ! Have you re-evaluated yours yet ? (she also did some improvements to her house when she bought it)
a few days later she sends a photo that I think is her ..i'ts hard to tell ...but it also might be a friend of hers ... in a car driving
x : so busy ... don't have time to breath ! crazyy happy days ...
x: woow !! hahaa how much did it go up in value ? yeah I am about to have it re-evaluated next week !
i : *whistling* who is that cutie that I can't get enough of ? (replying to the photo she sent )
a few hours later I send her another text (I was busy at work)
i : pheew.... free time ! OK ... so tell me what is going on in your life woman ? (replying to the statement she said about not having time to breath)
i: yeah it got re-evaluated to 2.3 - 2.4 but I am having another realtor over next week to hear what he has to say .. I hope he don't have the same reaction as she did (having an orgasm :P) .
oh ok ..nice... .. I still haven 't seen your apartement in real life... (implying that she has not invited me over yet)
no reply ... next evening she sends me a photo (weekend)
x :sends me a photo of her dining table set up with snacks and champagne etc .. I guess she is having a few friends over
x : let the night begin ...
at this point I feel like she is just sending me photos and never replying to whatever I write so I send her this a few hours later:
i : Dear blog ... what issues am I suffering from ?
she replies right away
x : you are prioritized on my blog
I dont reply ..
an hour later she sends another photo of her and her girlfriends out having drinks and eating sushi .
I don't reply ...
that's it.. what is this girls problem not ever responding to my messages and she just keeps sending me photos and shit .. what does she want ? to date?
I tried inviting her over her but it seems like she is reluctant to do that .. maybe because she is afraid that I will kick her out like I did last time after I fucked her?
Maybe she wants something serious now and wants to date instead? not sure ...
any ideas? Sorry for the long post :) and thank you for taking the time.
You're not really nailing down details for a meetup.
Hey you should come over for x one day soon, what nights are you free next week?
Sounds like you're investing more than you want to be here, I'd just press her a bit to see if she really wants to meet up or not. Check her availability first though
Honestly I'm not really interested in helping you text this girl just so you can get her to show up so you can fuck her then kick her out again lol.
Lol yeah I feel really bad about that. Honestly I think I like this girl but I cant really get what she wants from me because her texts and replies are so elusive and weird.
I would honestly really appreciate any help as I dont just want to fuck her but to engage in something more long term.
any help on a good approach is much appreciated!
The best thing to do going forward would be to just invite her to a social event. Something you got going on with your pals or maybe some cool themed event at a nightclub
This will communicate the right thing to her, and she may not necessarily go, but things will be easier after that
Ok thanks!
She has not sent my any more messages since I sent her that last text saying "dear blog, what issues am I suffering from". I guess she kind of took it the wrong way.
I noticed on facebook that she traveled abroad and did some business there, she posted a photo signing some contract.
I am thinking of sending her a text and congratulate her and get the conversation going that way and then maybe invite to some social event or gathering, what are your thoughts on this? i would prefer to just have a coffe or bring her a long while I run some errands in the city instead of inviting her to a social gathering, is there any good way that I can engage with what I've written above in mind?
Why the fuck would she ever want to go on errands with you dude? You just seem to be trying to put her in the assigned "concubine" slot. This girl is not wanting that.
Sure send her a text such as, "Congratz on that overseas contract! Catch those big fishies :)"
Yeah ok..I'll send her a text congratulating her. Thank you for the input it really helps! So what does she want then?
She obviously doesnt want to come to my place risking getting kicked out and running errands with me maybe isnt the most fun thing in the world but I
just want to hang out with her one on one, lets call it a date for a lack of a better word. How can I steer the conversation that way or at least find out what she wants?
So I sent her the text at 10 am and received a phone call around 3 pm which I missed and noticed just now an hour later. Calling her back in a few I guess
You guess? What do you mean you guess. You sent her a message and she called you. That's a high level of investment
So I called her back and the conversation went a little something like this:
I: hey whats up miss international
X: heeeeey how are you ...haha yeaah always traveling I still havent adjusted to the time difference.
I: I'm good just about to get in to the shower,
X : what are your plans ?
I : a friend of mine is turning 30 so we are going to celebrate! So I am leaving in about an hour, what are your plans?
X : ohh sounds like fun! I was in *name of area that I live* shopping and wanted to come by and see your new apartement
but It will be tight now since your leaving soon ! I am here because me and the family are having a surprise party for my granny she turns 75.
I : I see ...dont be surprising her too much, jumping out from behind the furniture and shit so she'll be scared to death ;P
X: haha yeah she'll have a heart attack...
I : yeaah..exactly.... Well It would have been fun if you came by but how is your schedule looking for the week?
X : Ehm... i dont know yet I just came back but will plan my schedule tomorrow at the office, we just moved it to this new building and will let you know.
I : aight.. Congratz by the way on the contract how does it feel
X : thanks! It feels ( she started talking about how good it felt etc... i dont remember the exact words)
x : oh my family is here know I have to go...I hope that you have fun...talk to you later
I: likewise bye
later on that evening (11.30 pm) I received a text from her saying
x : have fun toniight craaaazy ;)
I responded about half an hour later with
I: haha thnx bebe! i will ;) how is the afterparty at the *her lastname* 75th b daay,people are probably doing wheelies and shiit with their walking frames by now :p
And that is it...I have not heard back from her since that text yesterday evening!
thoughts on the conversation? Improvements / adjustements to make?
how to proceed?
once again, I really appreciate the input I receive ! There is a ton of knowledge and experience here! Thanks!
So the conversation continued like this :
x: hahaha , how was your night?
I: b day party @ nameofclub + good company = winning, whats your plan?
X : sleepless night + work all day = take my bra off and have a nap before the gym = happiness
I : ohh no young lady..I am not falling for that one... (Refferring to her mentioning the bra )
X: hhaha ;)
X: i want to go to the movies, how is your week looking?
I : nice ! Lets do it bebe!
I didnt mention a day or anything...maybe I should have?
You don't need any help with this dude. Just plan it out and get her out. You're done
Thank you once again for the help! What should I do different if I want to turn it into a LTR?
I find that peeing from different angles, while standing up, can be very therapeutic.
Shave your balls
Lol.... Duly noted ;)
What are some good texts to send after you havent texted in some weeks?
What are some good texts to send after you havent texted in some weeks?
Have you seen these?
Yo,
So my text game is pretty shit, and i've been trying to work on it. the following is an example of a quick number from last night...
ME: You seem cool, we may hang out, do you remember my name
ME: (next day) Oh boy... you seem like trouble
Her: haha hey! 4th year bcom right! sorry didn't think i caught your name haha
ME:Oh good, we both suck at names! don't know how i'm still at uni with my memory haha. {my name}, yours
All comments, suggestions, criticisms appreciated, cheers.
Met this petite Latina on Sat night. When I went to shake her hand she was being weird and refused. I insisted and she started wiping her hands down her dress. I asked her what her issue was and she said, "My palms get sweaty around hot guys." I laughed, told her she's adorable, and pulled her in for a hug.
I texted her Sat night right after I got her number, but her phone had died.
Me: Hey sweaty palms, you look hawt tonight
Me (Last night): Hey munchinbutt, did you charge your phone yet
Her (7:26am): LOL. You're too funny....Goodmorning sunshine
Good morning? Or good night ;) I'm out n about today what are you up to
Not sure why you would mention the sweaty palms
Me: Good morning? Or good night ;) I'm out n about today what are you up to
Her: Just got out of work. Blah!!!
Yeah but think about all those starving kids in africa. So I'm hanging out watching true detective. You should bring popcorn
Me: (7:36pm) Yeah but think about all those starving kids in africa. So I'm hanging out watching true detective. You should bring popcorn
Her: (5:51am) :/ now I want to go feed them popcorn
Her: (5:54am) You're going to have to forgive me but I can't remember your name.... What was it?
Give you a hint I'm an Archangel
Me: Give you a hint I'm an Archangel
She never responded
Well fuck her she's obviously gay
Hello, bit of backstory: I'm a junior in high school and have known this girl since freshman year. I broke contact with her last year, but am now talking to her again. She reinitiated texting me after about a year which was a good sign, than started snap chatting me. I texted her about a week later with the following conversation. I will add what I think I did wrong at the end, and I appreciate any feedback on my own critique and/or the conversation itself. Thanks in advance.
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I think I added the whole "seducer" thing rather abruptly without any transition/seemed a little out of place. I also think I went on a bit longer with that role play than I should have. In general she is a very sarcastic person which is represented in this convo. Also, I think I could have transitioned to going for the meet up better? maybe linking it up with the role play or another role play. Also, bear in mind that this was early afternoon on a Saturday so I realize it would have been better to schedule something further in advance! but that's how it went down.
Don't backpedal, that's the main thing. You went in strong, don't puss out
Is this the girl that is in your classes and you got her number first?
No different girl than the one we have been talking about, I've had this girls number for a while and she just recently reinitiated after about a year, so I thought Id jump on the opportunity.
Stay away from that whole "seduce you" frame it's terrible. It encouraged her to reject you/shit test you. You gave her the power and of course she's not going to tell you you seduced her. Derp. Newbie mistake
Stay away from that whole "seduce you" frame it's terrible. It encouraged her to reject you/shit test you. You gave her the power and of course she's not going to tell you you seduced her. Derp. Newbie mistake
would you say that that frame made me start qualifying myself to her which is where the main issue is?
Manwhore wrote:
Stay away from that whole "seduce you" frame it's terrible. It encouraged her to reject you/shit test you. You gave her the power and of course she's not going to tell you you seduced her. Derp. Newbie mistakewould you say that that frame made me start qualifying myself to her which is where the main issue is?
That's a very good point as well. What it did was give her an easy way out by rejecting/dissing you. Basically you set yourself up, and rewarded bad behavior from the get go. Lol
Tinder girl
Me: *opener*
Her: haha okay, wanna hangout?
What do you respond when girls are forward like this? Lol
Cute girl i met at the lounge area yesterday.
Me: i bet my weekend beat up your weekend :p
Her: why? I dont think so xD
Tinder girl
Me: *opener*
Her: haha okay, wanna hangout?
What do you respond when girls are forward like this? Lol easy dude. The correct response would be, " yeah"
Lol ok what about the other girl.